“HOOTIE? HOO!” Anyone who watches Bravo’s hit reality show “Top Chef” knows what and who I’m talking about. This reality show throws talented chefs together into a kitchen to whip up delicious meals under both ridiculous ingredient and time restraints. Basically, if you like food and a healthy dose of survivor-like competition, tune in. Carla Hall, one of the breakout contestants on the show has garnered a somewhat cult-like following because of her bubbly, warm-hearted personality, and a to-die-for chicken potpie recipe that I’m sure tastes just as good as it looks on the television screen. If you take a look at the video above, you can put a face to the name and get a sense of who it is I’m talking about. Carla’s that contestant on a reality competition show that is talented, not malicious, and a little bit kooky; basically everybody loves her.
This season, contestant’s spouses and family members made guest appearances, and Top Chef viewers and Carla-fans (like myself) finally got to meet her husband. Carla and the man who inspired the “Hootie Hoo” chant, that has become her signature slogan, seemed like a perfect fit and so in love. When it was revealed that they met on www.match.com I was shocked. Carla on a dating site? How is that possible? How could people as normal and real like Carla and her husband have met online? People like that meet in real life!
There is something that irks me about online relationships and people who have met from an online dating website. I always question the validity of the relationship, how genuine it is, if it’s real. I wonder if people who have met online can ever truly say their relationship is genuine because I suppose that I am not yet used to the idea that relationships can form from social media tools like dating websites, Facebook, and even Twitter. As silly as it sounds, it didn’t truly occur to me that online dating sites do actually result, many times, in real, long-lasting, and loving relationships until Carla revealed how she and her husband had met.
Now I mention Carla Hall and her online relationship because in Cognitive Surplus, author Clay Shirky discusses changing times and new media tools that have emerged, creating new spaces through which people can pursue their interests and passions. Older media forms like television, print newspapers, radio, and early Internet websites created “consumers” who passively ingested information created and shaped by certain people, or gatekeepers. Nowadays however, new media tools allow for participation. Throughout the semester we have learned how these new tools allow consumers to turn into participants, or the “former audience.” No longer are we fed information, but we can question it, discuss it with others, and even produce it ourselves. New media tools have and are resulting in great changes in business-profit models and corporate structure, the journalism and news industry, and the way political or interest/hobby groups form and communicate with one another.
Shirky talks about how these great changes really force us to relearn what the world can mean. This requires a restructuring of what we’re used to, and the process is already quickly underway. That means we have to restructure businesses so that more transparency and better customer-relations can fuel more growth. We learned in The Cluetrain Manifesto that CEOs can no longer sit in their offices satisfied with their work, they must monitor and listen to their customer’s needs if they hope to withstand message boards and social networking sites that can quickly and easily give a company a bad rep. Professional journalists and news networks must now compete with mobile camera and smart phones, blogs, and the “citizen journalists” who can report a story faster and more easily than ever before. Political candidates have to tap into and use these tools in order to get more votes than their competition, and most importantly to our class in particular, group-formation and means of communication when working on social change initiatives can now involve people across the country and around the world much quicker and easier, which brings the potential to great change at the forefront.
So we are facing a great change both in what media can mean, and in that sense, how society and the world is structured. It means that previous gatekeepers must restructure how they function, because previous consumers are now capturing their role as participants. Everyone is “relearning” his or her role in society and what had been deemed normal for years. As I watched Carla Hall, a seemingly normal (actually great) individual reveal that her marriage was the result of a relationship formed from an online dating site, I had to relearn what relationships and how they form meant. 1 in 4 relationships now start online and that number is steadily growing. Old-fashioned dating rules are out the window thanks to these new media tools, and while these new relationships seem to be less “real” than others, who can really gauge what “real” is? The old view of online as a separate space is now over. Nowadays, our social media tools aren’t an alternative to real life, they are part of it. Shirky says that in particular, they are “increasingly coordinating tools for events in the physical world” (pg. 37). So while online dating may seem weird and somewhat fake, these relationships are very real, and mine and many others’s hesitation in believing so is because we have not yet “relearned.”
One of Shirky’s points that resonated most to me while I read was, “…the use of social technology is much less determined by the tool itself; when we use a network, the most important asset we get is access to one another” (pg. 14). New media is all about social change that is coming along with it. It is forcing us to communicate with each other in different ways, gives access to many more people, and has forced great changes to the gatekeepers in society and their role in controlling flows of information. I guess it took a reality show star to teach me to rethink how a relationship can form, whether online or in person, but this relearning is inevitable and I’m excited to see what’s next.